Why Making Friends Is A Scientific Thing?
Are you finding it tough to make new friends or keeping up with old friendships? It’s a shocking revelation but some 20 years old are also finding themselves isolated once they shift from one spot to the other.
The first thing that one needs to accept is that friendship doesn’t happen organically anymore, and a scientific study has revealed that recently. According to, Dr. Marisa G. Franco, a psychologist who studies friendship and is based in Washington, D.C. while speaking to a leading media digital channel said, “The misconceptions about friendship — I think one of the biggest ones is that friendship should happen organically.” There is a science to attachment as well. It is not just emotions involved here. “Friendship doesn’t really happen organically in adulthood,” would say Franco, a speaker and author of The New York Times bestseller “Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make — and Keep — Friends.” Even before Covid-19 took over our lives, an epidemic of loneliness had hit America badly. One in five Americans said they were lonely or socially isolated — often negatively affecting their health, relationships or work — according to a 2018 study by the Kaiser Family Foundation. Read | Why do women have to sprint into leadership positions Many times, people don’t move to the next level of becoming friends due to a preconceived notion of ‘rejection’. In scientific terms, this is called ‘risk regulation theory’. However, according to Dr. Franco, making friends in adulthood is different from when you were younger. Here are some pointers to look at when investing in long term friendships:
Having expectations is natural, but clinging to them can be a problem, more so if you are looking for everything in one person itself. Give yourself space to go out there, experiment with your feelings and its okay to be hurt once in a while. |